Love Affair with a Married / Engaged Man
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Sometimes a friendships can turns to more…
Are you considering having a love affair with a married or engaged man? Before you do something you may regret, consider the pros and cons of having an affair.
But what I like to share is only the bad part, nothing good about having an affair… Before you have an affair, consider the implications the affair might have on other people.
The Downsides of Having an Affair
While there are several positive elements of having a love affair with a married man, the downsides are many and potentially devastating...
Getting Caught
The married man is putting his marriage or relationship at risk having an affair with you, and you risk the same if you are also married. You may not care about being caught, but your feelings may change if your spouse finds out and files for divorce. Sometimes we don’t realize what we have until we lose it.
Being caught involves more risks than just divorce. It can also ruin your career or your reputation. Even if you are single, you’ll still be labeled as “ the other woman” which can carry as much if not more negative stigmatism as the adulterous husband. You could lose friends and family support and your reputation in the city could be ruined as well.
He May Not Leave His Wife or Fiancee
Sometimes the hope of having a love affair is that he will leave his wife or fiancee and marry you. This does happen in some cases. However, the majority of the time, the married man only wants to have an affair. Even if he says he loves you and plans to leave his wife or fiancee, nothing is certain as long as he is still married or in a relationship.
Fantasy is Not Reality
Affairs often have a fantasy feel about them. The problem comes when you expect the fantasy to continue. Even if he does leave his wife and marries you, eventually the day-to-day realities of being married will replace the fantasy. In other words, getting what you want may turn out bad if what you really loved was the fantasy. In addition, in this scenario, your relationship will have been born out of cheating. Now that you are his wife, what’s to say he won’t start cheating on you?
Not Ultimately Fulfilling
If you are single and having a relationship with a married man, it will not be as fulfilling as dating a single guy. The relationship has to be secret, you can’t have your parents meet him and he will be in the arms and bed of another woman. Is that the kind of relationship you want?
Taken from.. yahoo.com
Sometimes a friendships can turns to more…
Are you considering having a love affair with a married or engaged man? Before you do something you may regret, consider the pros and cons of having an affair.
But what I like to share is only the bad part, nothing good about having an affair… Before you have an affair, consider the implications the affair might have on other people.
The Downsides of Having an Affair
While there are several positive elements of having a love affair with a married man, the downsides are many and potentially devastating...
Getting Caught
The married man is putting his marriage or relationship at risk having an affair with you, and you risk the same if you are also married. You may not care about being caught, but your feelings may change if your spouse finds out and files for divorce. Sometimes we don’t realize what we have until we lose it.
Being caught involves more risks than just divorce. It can also ruin your career or your reputation. Even if you are single, you’ll still be labeled as “ the other woman” which can carry as much if not more negative stigmatism as the adulterous husband. You could lose friends and family support and your reputation in the city could be ruined as well.
He May Not Leave His Wife or Fiancee
Sometimes the hope of having a love affair is that he will leave his wife or fiancee and marry you. This does happen in some cases. However, the majority of the time, the married man only wants to have an affair. Even if he says he loves you and plans to leave his wife or fiancee, nothing is certain as long as he is still married or in a relationship.
Fantasy is Not Reality
Affairs often have a fantasy feel about them. The problem comes when you expect the fantasy to continue. Even if he does leave his wife and marries you, eventually the day-to-day realities of being married will replace the fantasy. In other words, getting what you want may turn out bad if what you really loved was the fantasy. In addition, in this scenario, your relationship will have been born out of cheating. Now that you are his wife, what’s to say he won’t start cheating on you?
Not Ultimately Fulfilling
If you are single and having a relationship with a married man, it will not be as fulfilling as dating a single guy. The relationship has to be secret, you can’t have your parents meet him and he will be in the arms and bed of another woman. Is that the kind of relationship you want?
Taken from.. yahoo.com
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